So for the past 5 years I’ve been celebrating Christmas with my in laws because it’s just them and my husband and I which is fine.

My mom complains that I don’t spend Christmas with her anymore but the problem is my side of the family is larger and is hard to work around to get everyone together on Christmas Day. My mom blames me all the time for not having Christmas on Christmas Day. So I suggested we do a Christmas brunch or something like that and she said that’s “fighting over the day.” Am I in the wrong? My parents smoke in their house and every-time I go there I end up going home smelling of cigarettes. I have even suggested Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> and she shuts that idea down.