So I have a question and I would love everyone’s honest opinions ….please . So I started dating my boyfriend two years ago and I have known him for 2 1/2 years. Now when I first met him and met his family I really liked them a lot but as time gone by and 1 1/2 of the relationship gone by I noticed things about his mother. Now let me remind you I have always lived the independent life style since I was 3 because I was in an orphanage and lived through a civil war in west Africa and I had no family- we all got separated during the civil war - so fast forward, like I said am independent and that how I was raised in Africa and in America has effected me. So I don’t like people telling me what to do and how to live my life at all - I am my own person and that comes in good and bad. But once I met my boyfriends mother I tried telling her a little of my life and who I am and the things I have done in my life to survive and etc. I thought me and her had an understanding…but I realized now me and her really don’t . So my boyfriend has a daughter and she’s 6year old from his past relationship and I told him from day one what I wanted and what I expected out of our relationship and if we have kids together in the future and what Kind of mama I am going to be to my child . And me thinking he would share that to his family and let them know because maybe they would ask - but they didn’t . Over time I realized that his mother is very good at guilt tripping, opinionated, controlling and manipulative in his sons life for almost everything .. she’s very involved in her grandkids lives and very controlling because her sons don’t know when to tell her to back off when she needs to and for them and there partners to be the parents. And then came me …I have a child now with him and she is about to turn 5months and I have my boundaries. I was raised very different then him and I have explained to his mother many times, but me and her just keep bumping heads . I want my daughter to know her grandma but I believe in boundaries with her especially for my Heath, my sanity and for my child, when she doesn’t . She wants to be involved in everything and know everything whyll, my mother is opposite she knows that she’s a grandma and am the mother and I make the rules and decisions for my daughter and my mom respects me and doesn’t involve her self unless I tell her or need her. But his mother so opinionated and feels as if she thinks I need it when I never asked for it and makes me feel like am doing a shit job and always making little comments when she hasn’t seen my daughter a little whyll to make me feel guilty and give up my boundaries with her. She’s the type of Grandma that thinks she’s the mom, has let her grandkids call her mom when they were young infront of the actual moms and they didn’t like it and she believes she has the right to say on how and what the kids should do. My boyfriend and I talk all the time about the issue because am trying to open his eyes in what I see and what I need to be my daughters mother and he’s a guy who is a peacemaker and does whatever he can to keep the peace and am not . Am blunt and will cuss u out if u have stepped over the line and he’s a teddy bear. I think she also had high expectations from me since we kinda got along before my daughter was born and expected me to be the same way as her daughter in law and her sons ex. My question is - is it okay that I am keep boundaries and space between my daughter and I from her at times? I feel if I don’t she will walk over me as she does with his ex and her daughter in law.