My bf has said “you look gross” two different times once while I was showing him how fast I could flare my nostrils and the second time I was j staring at him. when I stopped and was clearly hurt and asked “really, do I actually look gross:(?” he kept the “joke” going. When I brought it up later he did take full responsibility and apologized profusely and didn’t invalidate but did continue to tell me he was “just joking.” And after the first time it happened again.