So I’m going to give brief backstory before I ask a question that is probably very common among couples, but basically when it comes to video games I personally have a lot of triggers because in my last two relationships they 100% put video games before me. To the point of seeming annoyed when I would come home from work and they would be expected to get off and help with dinner, would pass on walks or going to the movies because they wanted to stay home and play with their friends, etc. I am someone who actually really enjoys video games and plays occasionally but my love language is quality time and I would never feel the need to play over spending time with my partner. Well it was never an issue with my bf and I until recently. We have been together a year and he rarely EVER played so it wasnt an issue. But now that the new call of duty came out and all his friends convinced him to buy it, it seems like all he’s been wanting to do. We have talked about it before how I do get triggered from my past of thinking him wanting to play for an hour here and there means he doesn’t want to spend time with me, so I actually have been making a point to suggest he play an hour or so on the weekends while I read or something so that I can let him feel like he has his time with his friends.. but he’s doing this thing now that my exes did that drives me CRAZY where we will be literally shopping for thanksgiving stuff like we were tonight, it’s almost 7pm and I am asking what we are doing for dinner when we get home, and asking if he will defrost chicken while I clean/get stuff done for tomorrow and he goes “well I do want to play tonight also…” like okay? And sure enough when we are home after eating and getting stuff ready for the holiday and I’m ready to relax, after barely spending time together in 4 days because we have been so busy at work and I suggest we watch a holiday movie he is like “sure but how long do you think it will be because everyone is going to going to bed early to wake up and cook and they are all online now.” I ended up getting so triggered just by that that I stood up and said “okay, you play. I’ll just go to bed.” And went upstairs. Instead of coming up or asking me why I’m upset I can hear him on the damn game. I’m just at a loss because on one hand it’s only been an issue for this last month but also I feel kind of like I may be overreacting because it’s not like he gets a lot of time to himself he’s either working or spending time with me. Playing an hour or two a day I guess could be considered fair and healthy? I’m not sure if this is something that I need to be more understanding about, or something he needs to work on.