I'm curious to how many people choose permenant steriliazation such as tubal removal and/or vasectomy after their last kiddo.

My H and I just had our second child 2 weeks ago. We now have 2 beautiful girls. Prior to the conception and birth of our second we knew that financially, and mentally she would be our last. To us, there's wasn't a moment of what if. I was planning a tubal removal either at NY second c section or shortly after. During delivery my vbac attempt turned into an emergency c sdction. It turns out that medically a third pregnancy would be very high risk for me anyways and it solidified our decision to have a tubal removal.

My husband, is also planning a vasectomy. This part might leave other people confused and this is where im Wondering if anybody else has this thought process. First and foremost our marriage is stable and strong. But we both have parents/ step parents in their third and second, and 4th marriages. Both my dad and his step dad have experienced being widowed and all 4 have experienced at least 1 divorce. We both felt that it was important to both get permenently sterialized because we both don't want kids in the future together or with other people in the event of a death/ divorce.

Obviously it's possible that we could marry someone else with existing children but that's different then our kids watching one of their parents start a new family with someone else.

The second reason is we aren't monogamous and once every year or so we are intimate with our other partners.

So we are both choosing permanent sterilization. Has anybody else chosen this for both partners? If so, What were your reasons.