Ok, so backstory. Been with my BF for 3 years and we live together. July 2021 I unexpectedly get diagnosed with colon cancer at age 36. It was stage three and I needed surgery and chemo. Surgery happens same month and I prep for chemo. I have a good convo with my BF and let him know I want to preserve my fertility (I.e. go through a cycle of <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a>) before starting chemo, as chemo can damage my eggs. He tells me I’d probably be fine and not to worry about fertility and the chemo Probably won’t effect my fertility (when there is clear evidence chemo does). So I tell him I’m going to do it because I can’t chance it and he says fine. He asks how I’m going to pay (because I had like no savings) and I tell him my dad might help. He never offered to help (mostly because he thought I didn’t need to freeze them). I then ask if he would like to freeze embryos instead of just eggs because they have a better thaw survival rate. He says “nah, just keep it as eggs, we can just unthaw the eggs when it’s time and do it then.”

Now, I know we aren’t married. It’s my decision but the cost of it just about killed me. He never offered to help when my dad couldn’t. It was up to me to pay. All me and I was on disability with severely decreased income. Is it bad to assume he should have at least offered to pay for some (especially if he thinks those eggs are his future child)? I can maybe see why he didn’t want to make them embryos but it’s been a year since and we are still together. We don’t ever talk about it either and when I do he tells me I should have went back to work sooner in order to get more money.

Thoughts?