My man told me that the reason he name calls me is because I start the arguments and name calling first in your relationship.

I told him "okay, if I'm the one who causes all the arguments, what did I name call him because I don't remember"

He told me I should remember instead of what I called him. And he told me like usual I should ask myself what I called him to start the argument.

I told him if I cause all the trouble in our relationship, why does he stay? Why does he apologize constantly for things he claims not to mean and why can't he ever recall the so- called names I told him to make him say all the hateful things he says to me.

He told me to ask myself those questions.

And he does this for everything. It's always I made him do this wrong thing. When we were separated and I asked for a divorce, he refused to sign the papers. Instead he begged me for another chance, promised he would change his ways and didn't want to see another man raising his family.

Why go through all of that for someone who you claim starts all the problems in your relationship.