🛟 everything he does bothers me

Everything my husband does bothers me so bad!He has some type of ADHD and doesn’t stay focused. I’m SAHM. We’ve had marriage issues due to him being selfish and I really just don’t enjoy his company. He’s loud and rude. He purposely drinks coffee to be more hyper and bother me ontop of it. He’s been ‘helping’ with chores recently like laundry but he leaves it everywhere so the dogs jump in everything and ruin it anyway! He’s reckless, smashes n breaks almost everything. Careless with money. I don’t trust him with the kids. We just bought a new family car which is essentially mine because I take care of the kids. When he tries to take it or does take it makes me so angry. He speeds,on his phone and rarely even fully sober driver. We haven’t been intimate in 6 months. I’ve been trying to be nicer to him cuz he is trying to change his ways but he just keeps saying how mean I am when I don’t give him attention. My skin crawls and I feel so stressed near him. I don’t know what to do. He’s done some really bad things to me and it completely turned me off! HELP