This is a rant and I’m genuinely curious if I have a right to feel upset and disrespected by her actions…..

Ok so my MIL has never liked me. She wanted to be one of those moms that got to find the “right” woman for her son to marry, then he brought home me 😂 and she was not happy. She always try’s to find anything she can on me to make me look bad/seem like a bad person, and she just dose some weird/off putting stuff.

She tried convincing my husband, before we got married, to dump me and say I’m no good because I took melatonin to go to bed.

While we were shopping for dresses for my wedding, she came to me while I was looking at a dress, and said that my husband would love to see me in that dress and it’d look sexy, and that it would make us look good together(the color matched his dress blues). Then she proceeded to put on the dress and buy it. After a few days and thinking it over I told her she couldn’t wear it because I’m the bride and I wanted to wear that dress for my wedding. (I know that seems shallow and selfish, but I didn’t care) I found it strange how she chose a dress to try and look good for her son, not her husband.

Every time we take family photos she tries to boot me out, and put me on the end where I’m nowhere near my husband. You should have seen her face when one of her family members told her that she needed to move next to her husband and I should be by mine. She looked so upset and angry, like a toddler that didn’t get what they wanted.

I let her and her friend take newborn photos of my daughter. Her friend was doing it for free, that was our gift. I brought 2 outfits that were really special to me and I wanted photos of her in. I was only 5 days PP and was still in a lot of pain. I was there watching them, I reminded them after every shoot to do the outfits I brought. But my MIL had like 10 different outfits and she did all of hers first. We were there for 3-4 hours and she just kept pushing me off.

She wouldn’t even let me breast feed her that day. I put her on my tit for 5 minutes before she was too impatient and she literally came up to me. Started touching her face and head making the baby upset so she moved her head and came off. She instantly grabbed her telling me that my daughter was done eating. I’m her mom! I would know if she was done or not. Then she made her a bottle and she fed her.

Also when we went to Munds parks for her birthday she invited her “friends”. These are girls she coached at church, they were both 20 and 21. My MIL is 50, and one of the girls happened to be one my husband used to have a crush on and tried to date her, and it was a girl my MIL approved of.

She is also trying so hard to convince me and my husband to let her watch the baby over night. She’s only a month old, I’m not ready to leave her over night and my baby isn’t either. I’ve told her how I felt and she just feels like it’s a manipulation tactic and that I want to hurt her… my husband also thinks sometimes what comes out of my MIL mouth is gospel, and will agree with her most of the time. This is causing a lot of problems in our marriage…

Now what set this whole rant off was that before thanksgiving we were looking at baby clothes. She wanted to get her a outfit for thanksgiving, I told her she could but I wanted to like the outfit too. (It was the baby’s first thanksgiving) while we were looking I made the mistake of telling her that I wanted to get her a certain outfit to surprise my husband in. But I made it clear that I wanted to buy it and surprise him. Well she texted me and my husband in a group chat sending a picture of the outfit letting us know she has it.

I have had my last straw. I feel disrespected, hurt, and angry. I feel like she is constantly out to get me and my husband thinks that I’m doing it to be mean and to purposely hurt them. When I feel I haven’t done anything wrong! I’m tired of her walking all over me and disrespecting me…. So would you guys be mad or upset if this happened to you? Or am I being hormonal? I want to get some other peoples thoughts.