Is this normal? Family asking if I’m still breastfeeding and if I got period

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I stopped pumping for my baby who will be 9 months old tomorrow right before he turned 8 months. He never fully latched onto my right breast because he has tortocolis in womb and it hurt his neck to be that way so I exclusively pumped for 4 months and my pediatrician said he needed more milk so we supplemented with formula and once he started sleeping through night my husband and I spoke and he said I did so much good work and I should give myself a break so we cut back and by 8 months now he is strictly formula and of course purées. 
I got my period back recently since I stopped pumping and my dad is a big health nut and realized I wasn’t bringing my pump around and asked if I’m still breastfeeding as it is better. I fibbed and said only morning and night I pump not during day anymore ( that’s what I was doing before I stopped). I have been fibbing because I didn’t want to hear it and also my sister is 1 year older and doesn’t have a baby. Has a bf of almost 10 years on an off and was upset I was having a baby before her and the year after I got married she kept asking me each month if I got my period making sure basically I wasn’t pregnant so I didn’t want her to know I have my period again because I don’t want to have her question when I’ll have another because her and her bf compare to my husband and I and she tells me how her bf tears up when he saw our Christmas card for example (I know it’s because we have a family Christmas card with a baby and they don’t) etc. 
so my dad the other day asked again, and I said no not really pumping anymore… I didn’t want to fib anymore as it has been a few months now, and my mom goes to pediatrician with me sometimes and is a nurse so my pediatrician would ask this month if I still pump and I would say no so… so my mom after my dad asked and I said no, asked if I got my period back and I said yes. I told her please not to tell my sister as what happened before…. She said she won’t. I’m just like is this normal for people to ask? Like is it bad I don’t want my sister in my business and then having her ask way too many questions? Thanks

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This is not normal at all. This is toxic AF. My parents didn't care if I breastfed or not and especially my dad would never even ask me such a personal question if I was. Maybe my mom would but she would support me if I wanted to or didn't want to. And I have sisters and have been in both places. I had one who had trouble having a baby when I had a baby and she didn't treat me like crap like that, nor make me feel bad about it. Then when I struggled to get pregnant with my second my other sister had a baby and I didn't make her feel guilty, I loved my new nephew. This is so wrong in so many levels. I would take a break with them or make boundaries because that's insane and sounds like a lot of unnecessary stress you don't need

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No it's definitely not normal and you honestly have every right to tell everyone that you don't feel comfortable answering those questions. And you honestly shouldn't answer those questions. It's no one's business if you're still pumping or not and it's absolutely no one's business if you have your period back or not. I also wouldn't bring your mother to the pediatric group with you because there's no reason for her to be there hearing things that she's just going to go home and tell your father that your sister's probably going to find out. 
It's not normal at all for your sister to have asked you every month if you have your period and honestly you shouldn't have answered her. That type of jealousy is really toxic and if I were you I wouldn't be speaking to her. You definitely don't ever have to tell a single person what's going on with your body and what choices you're making. 
From this point on if someone asks a question that has to do with your bodily functions if I were you I would just tell them "I don't want to answer that right now" and then change the subject.

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It’s weird. With my first born I was not able to nurse him past a week & my dad would ask why I wasnt breast feeding and I felt judged, and weird.. also my male cousin randomly asked if I was giving my son breast milk & I said no, he said why not? I remember feeling so stunned like why do you think you can ask me that. I’ve had cousins who straight formula fed from the start and I never felt the need to ask why… it’s not our business what others do with their bodies or how they feed their babies! People are so weird sometimes

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Does your sister have fertility issues? 
Your family should be respectful of your decision. 
I think it’s normal to ask if your period is back if y’all are an open family. And I think it’s fair to ask, in a non judgmental way, if you’re still pumping when noticing you don’t have your pump anymore. But it’s weird that your sister asked monthly about your period. It’s weird if you get criticized for stopping pumping. 
Mental health is important too. Exclusively pumping is the worst and completely draining. While I love the power of breast milk and think formula is too expensive, I honestly don’t think I could go a full year of exclusively pumping. I’m 2 months in and counting down to start practicing latching with my nicu baby. 
You did a great job. You’re still doing a great job. 
Just tell them that without pumping, you have more time to focus on getting babe on table food. 
In fact, with they way they are now, what and how you feed your little one will probably be interesting. Look into solid starts now and gain a bunch a knowledge and facts to throw in their face when they give you attitude. 
Stand your ground! Good luck!

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That is so weird about your sis 😳

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You can start telling them you’re not answering personal questions. You don’t have to give them an answer. Some things are none of their business.

Is this normal? Family asking if I’m still breastfeeding and if I got period

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