- Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> (24th): grandparents X visit and stay 1 night.

- Christmas Day (25th): grandparents X spend the day, but go home that evening.

- Boxing Day (26th): do we…..

Plan A: host grandparents Z (who we’ll be seeing on the 27th)

OR

Plan B: go visit the grandparents X (from Christmas Day) where an Auntie and Uncle will be celebrating (no other plans to see them over the holidays otherwise).

Plan C: stay home and see no one 😂. We have a 4 and 2 year old.

- 27th: we are going to grandparents Z house , where there is a small gathering with one uncle and (another set) Great grandparents Y.

My choice is option B - but my partners choice is option A. It’s a tie breaker. Please comment plan A, B or C of what you would do.

Edited to add that grandparents Y and Z live 2 hours away. Grandparents X live 1 hour away (both in different directions). The back and forth driving is what’s putting me off over the holidays - I understand the fairness comment - but we swap who we see on Christmas Day every year. It’s impossible to please everyone on Christmas Day , so this is how we’ve managed it.

Thanks for you comments Kate - you come across as very into fairness related to time . I don’t know if this reflects something that’s happening in your personal life. Grandparents Z and Y are spending 3 days over Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>, Christmas Day and Boxing Day with one of my nephews. We haven’t been invited (totally not got any issues with that / it’s a lot of people to host), and they’ve offered to pop in to our house on their way home on Boxing Day, even though we are meeting up on the 27th. How they spend their time with all their grandchildren is up to then - in your eyes, this probably doesn’t seem fair on their behaviour either. It goes both ways, but gosh if we were all obsessed with making time fair - we’d be living a very stressful and high pressure life with constant worrying about our plans. We’ve never complained to them about their plans, and they haven’t to us either. We still have no idea what we are doing, and I’ve honestly put this out there as a sort of fun post - I’m sure dilemmas on Christmas plans happen all the time with other families.