me and my ex broke up over a month and a half ago after a year and a half relationship. we both knew it would be better if we broke it off but he initiated it. i wanted to fix thing and he disagreed and we concluded that we were just 2 different people. well it broke my heart. during the relationship i wouldn’t give him much sex. his beliefs were that sex comes with a healthy relationship and my beliefs were you can have a healthy relationship without sex. he never begged me for it. well since we’ve broke up we’ve met up a couple times to give stuff back to each other. we went about a month without seeing each other and he one day he texts me wanting to meet up so he can talk to me about something. we agreed that if either one of us wanted to talk or meet up we would meet up to talk if both of us didn’t mind. so i said yes we can meet up and so he could give me things that were mine. during the talk he basically told me he missed me. shortly into the talk i asked if he had done anything with another girl and he told me yes. so i asked what did you do. he said EVERYTHING. (including sex) with this one girl. only one. i was pretty mad about it since it we have only been broken up for a month and a half. he said he regrets it and it wasn’t as special as doing it with someone who means so much to you. (i told him “so you’re saying it took you to break my heart and have sex with another girl to realize i was good for”) he said yes and wants me back so bad. he said he’s do anything to get me back and he would respect my boundaries…i have a big sex boundary where i don’t like having it at when i am at such a youngish age (18) and don’t want to have it. he said he would respect my boundaries (including that one).

now that he wants to get back together i have a lot of thinking to do. i know i don’t want a relationship rn and want to do for myself for a little while. if we did get back together we wouldn’t get back together quickly that it would take time. i’m just a little back and forth with the fact he had sex with someone else when we were both each others firsts.

knowing he’s trying to come back in this relationship without sex is a big eye opener. because he’s not looking for sex between us. i gave him everything in our year and a half relationship except sex. and he’s coming back to be with me, knowing he might not get sex. me being with him again is what he all he wants and wants to do life together.