Hey guys! I honestly need to rant, but feel free to read and comment on my essay lol. I’m a 26 y.o. Female and I have an older boyfriend who is a bartender. We used to work together at the same bar when we met almost 5 years ago,.I was 21. It was fun to drink and go out then, but now that I’m 26, that’s not my norm, especially with the crime in the city I live in. I work full time as a teacher, bartend a couple nights a week. I’ll go out on a Wednesday with my godparents and have a drink or two, but I’m home by 8/8:30. I’ll go to his bar one day of the weekend and will usually have 3 drinks/ maybe 4 depending on what it is, and stay a little later. My problem is that my boyfriend still acts like the party scene is still my norm. So if I decide to meet up with our friends at his bar and decide to not get a drink, or maybe get one, he’ll say, ‘oh wow, you’re not drinking today? That’s new’ and I just say that I don’t drink every time I go out, he does the ‘girl please’ act trying to be a comedian. when I tell him I don’t like it, ‘it’s just a joke’. It comes off as you insinuating that I drink heavily and stay out late every time I hit the town, when in reality, I can’t handle more that three drinks and I work 65+ hours a week and like to be in my bed.

So last night, I got off of my bar job and went to see him because I hadn’t seen him all week. Didn’t feel like drinking, so I got a water and hookah and waited for him to make it to work since he was late. He came, made his little remarks saying he’s shocked I’m only drinking water, I must have went drinking before I came, because there’s no way I’m not drinking, the people around laugh. I get my things, say bye to everyone and leave. He was puzzled at why I was leaving, and now he’s mad at me and my ‘attitude’ and frankly idgaf. I’m just annoyed that I have to explain things he knows. In private, he’ll sit here and say how he knows I go to bed early, so he’ll try to call me when he’s on break at work to say good night. Or that he knows I can’t drink a lot anymore with the medicine I’m on. but in public, he makes backhanded comments, entertaining everybody and I’m the butt of the joke, like I’m the alcoholic, party all night long Queen of the year.