Before I met my fiancé (and soon to be husband) I was in a bad relationship. I have depression and anxiety and suffered from self harm but my ex was dismissive and had no respect for me. I was so unhappy but scared to leave and be alone.

I came home from work bawling my eyes out because everything was going majorly wrong. My ex did nothing but make me feel like a burden. Meanwhile a guy I had a minor crush on at work supported me and helped me personally though it.

This guy and me started talking and it was intense. Every feeling was overwhelming. We texted everyday all day. But we only ever kissed once. Things ended but we’re still friends. He moved work places so the distance helped me move on.

I met my fiancé. He’s everything I’ve dreamed of. He gives me confidence, he lets me be silly, he loves and supports me and lets me love and support him. We have a baby and he’s the most awesome dad. I never really wanted kids until him. We’ve been together 4 years but honestly I can’t really remember not having him around (if that makes sense).

But now my old flame has come back to work with me. He sits at a desk across from me. One of the ladies in our area is VERY flirty and makes me and the old flame flirt. She thinks it’s funny. And I blush easy.

He’s made it clear that he still has feelings but he also has a partner and a kid.

I just don’t know how to navigate this all. I have lots of issues setting boundaries because of my anxiety and other mental health issues. Im very easy to manipulate. I know this but I can’t recognise it happening.

Moving desk is not and option.

But I’m also scared to tell this guy to back off because what would be admitting feelings and I don’t want him to push me.