My in-laws live in the back house (we rent it to them) They dont like me since they met me and I can feel the energy. (It’s been 13 years now)

Sometimes I go visit them with my baby and forgot that they dont like me but they make comments that I dont like, I just had a baby (my friend’s daughter had a baby and she is working now, she is strong) My husband doesn’t want me to get a job now and he said that I have to take care of our baby. He does good money so that’s why he is ok with me not working right now. His step father, mom and brother makes comments that other women start working after 6 weeks of having a baby and I respond “good for them and its not my fault “ everyone has a different life. Now that i have a baby they tried to be nice with me but it’s hard for them. I wish I didn’t care what they think of me. I feel like a have a low self esteem for wanting to like them.

Can someone give some tips to be more secure and don’t let these people control my feelings please.