My husband is a mums boy. They tell each other literally everything. My husband always want me to keep my mouth shut when it comes to my family though. Anyway point is when it comes to his mum he can’t hear me anymore.

Anyway he has been working extra shifts sometimes finishing 12 midnight. A few nights ago after his shift was done and almost 1hour and a half no sign of him I call him and ask are you ok. He says yes I just was talking to my mum in the car. Anyway when he comes home he says why are you upset. I said can you at least let me know that your ok and will be a while. After getting defensive and assuming I was angry because he was on the phone with his mum he realised what I said. He told me next time he will message me.

It’s happened 3 times since and yesterday when he came home I said why are you doing this. Whats so hard about messaging me that your going to be late 1-2 hours because your on the phone with your mum and I am sitting here worried.

He went crazy and started saying “why are you so angry that I am talking to my mum. This marriage is so ugly. Do you think because you make me food and do other things for me that is a marriage? You never say anything when I come from work, you don’t know how to be happy”….. so crappy wife is what he means.

Anyway soooooo many hurtful comments.

For me it hurts because I do everything to make him comfortable while he is working hard. When he comes home I ask how was your day. Are you ok?

He never asks me.

I make sure food is ready so he can come home between shifts and eat a meal. I prepare his night clothes to come and have a shower as soon as he gets here as well as his morning outfit. He also comes home and finds his hot tea ready so he can have a cup before going to bed. He helps me zero amount with our girl. He has not since she was born. All the waking up, feeding, playing taking care of was and is on me. So what more can I do for him. I also cut his hair, clean the house so he comes home to a clean house, wash his shoes when he asks.

Anyway so when he says thats not what a marriage is about I feel so angry and upset for all the effort I am putting to make him do less because he is so tired. Why can’t he see that when I do those things its because I am trying to make his stress and all better.

I am not the hottest woman out there far from it but I am taking care of my looks. I have lost weight need a little more I am dressed and clean when he comes home. We do have other interactions aswell and he says he had a good time…..I am mentioning these things so you know that those departments are not just left out.

I dont know what do you think?