Edit- the dinner I agreed to is also at my mom’s house so I can ask to eat earlier but it’s ultimately up to my mom when food is served

I posted earlier about how my mom invited us for Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> dinner last night, promised we’d eat around 6pm but in reality dinner was not served until 9pm (we left at 8pm to get our baby to bed, he’s 4 months old and going through a rough patch of terrible sleep) so we ended up eating nothing for the 5 hours we were there. For many reasons this made me not want to go to a dinner at my parents house ever again, because they always say we’ll eat ‘early’ (they consider 5 or 6pm early) but it never ever happens and my husband and I are always in an awkward spot of either walking out half way through the meal or keeping the baby up past bedtime (& then he becomes a hysterical mess and sleeps terribly bc he’s overtired/overstimulated).

I already (last week) agreed to dinner next week for my sister’s bday. She’s in town for 2 weeks from a few states away. My exact words were that I’d definitely go to dinner. So I’m wondering if I need to stick to that or can I just tell everyone we’re not doing any more dinner events? Is that unreasonable of me? I would gladly do a breakfast or bunch on a weekend day. And I’d have them over at my house but I live an hour away and they don’t like to do the drive.