I married this year but we been together for 9.There were fights before this one we had yesterday from the same cause but honestly I thought he would change now that we have our own family and a baby to arrive in summer.

I did NOT forbid him to visit or spend time with his father (his fathers divorced,his mother in another country) but he isn’t putting me first in nothing.He goes to his father from morning like 8am to 12am or more when he doesn’t has work days or goes to his father on workday at least 4 hours.

I feel lonely,alone and when he goes home he eats and then sleeps or spend time on phone for another couple of hours playing or watching videos.

I tried to go with him plenty of times to see what’s he doing what’s so entertaining but just drinking beer and doing nothing.I tried to tell him to come home also and he says i’m controlling him .

I understand his father is alone and needs company but I feel like his keeping him from spending time with myself, also his father is an alcoholic, to the point when he woke up and chose to drink and i’m afraid that is what is making my husband to do.He drinks abd smokes a lot there.He said to let him space but i find his space he wants too much when he’s not returning the favor to me.Avoiding to spend time together, begging for affection and conversation.

I thought he will change now this summer was pretty perfect for us and we married in september and I got pregnant but I guess he did not change after all. I spent this Christmas alone and he made sure of it New Year’s <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">eve</a> will be spent with his father and I know if i would make him chose he would not chose me or he will get mad for putting him chose between spending new years with him or his dad.Because simply both cannot do it.Last year we fought because I said let’s spent time with your father on YEARS <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">EVE</a> until 9pm then come home and spend together and got mad. ( we spent all night home but it was awkward to the pony we slept by 1am cause there were no communication) i’m sad this years might be the same or not spending with him at all.

And please dont say go there, I tried I went at his father but I cannot simply spent that much time there because nobody not him not his father not other people that came there even engage in a conversation with me.

I don’t know what to do say and what to talk about anymore with my husband, can someone advice ?