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break up
I don’t know what to do
I’ve been with my bf for 2 months, we’re 30 btw. He wants to kiss me practically at all times. Even when I’m trying to do something or in public. He gets upset if I don’t want to. He’s obsessed with wanting to cuddle me. For a while my back has been hurting from work and he still tries to cuddle me and won’t accept “my back hurts” as an answer. He still tries to and gets upset if I don’t want to. He still wants to have sex everyday even though I’ve been explaining my back HURTS. We were at my parents house for Christmas and he still tried to cuddle me in front of my family, a couple of different times, and he got upset I didn’t want to and I explained I don’t want to, we are at my parents house. He kept kissing me instead. We spent the night there and he asked if he touch my boobs when we were in bed together and I said no and he still tried to pull my shirt down and tried to suck on my tits. It turned into a huge conversation but he still got very upset. He has a extremely high sex drive and wants to have sex all the time. He’s constantly just grabbing my boobs at inappropriate times (like even if I’m talking trying to tell him about my day at work). I tell him to stop and he gets upset. I have told him many many times now in lengthy conversation that i’m not comfortable with him doing that but he keeps trying to and now asking me all the time if he can touch my boobs. And when I say no he gets upset and keeps asking why (after I’ve already told him). I told him I’m sick of repeating myself. If we don’t have sex one of the days we’re together he’ll get extremely upset and accuse me of not wanting to be with him.
I’ve had many talks with him about this. Last time I told him- honestly, my sex drive is not that high, I’ve been extremely stressed from my job (which I’ve also been telling him over and over again) and I would only like to have sex once a week. He got DEVASTATED and started rocking back and forth with his hands in his face and started whispering to himself and pouting.
He also says super sweet stuff to me all the time but I’m starting to think it’s only because he thinks it will lead to sex.
I’m to the point where I’m so turned off by all of this that I don’t even want him touching me at all. It’s disappointing because he is a very very nice guy who actually treats me good (except for what I’m explaining here). He keeps saying since he has anxiety he wants constant reassurance and he shows his love by sex, and thinks I need to be the one to compromise and have sex with him more.
I don’t know what to do.
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I'd personally just break up. You said it has only been 2 months...that isn't long enough for me to want counseling or anything. If there is this much of an issue with respect, consent and manipulation this early in it probably isn't gonna get better. People are usually on their best behavior at the start of a relationship so if this is an A++ version of him what will the C version of him look like.
If you want to work the relationship out I'd have one more conversation about consent and boundaries if not this so something definitely worth breaking up over, you telling him your back hurts and not to touch your boobs and he still tries to or gets mad is disrespectful, you have the right to your own space. Also it's disrespectful to your family when he's touching you in front of them, he's basically just caring about his needs and no one else's. I think this will eventually end in a break up because you'll get tired of it.
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