My husband works long hours. Today he worked from 5am to 3pm. Sometimes he’ll work until almost 7pm. We don’t seem to spend a lot of quality time together, in fact I seem to be a burden most of the time. Today when he got home from work, he had time to himself; just watching tv. I asked if he wanted to be alone and he said yes so we did on our own thing; him in the living room, me in the bedroom. About 3 hours later we went out to buy dinner. We ate separately. I asked if we could watch a show together but he wanted to watch something else so he said no. Then at 9pm he says he’s ready for bed and goes to sleep. It’s like this most of the time. When I told him that we didn’t spend any time together, he “jokingly” said, “we just spent time together during Christmas”.. I don’t think it was really a joke. I think he gets tired of me and/or annoyed with me. He knows that my love languages are quality time and physical touch but he doesn’t act on it. Sometimes he’ll come home and he doesn’t give me a hug or kiss until I ask for it or initiate it. I don’t know how to feel. Is this normal?

It’s not like this all of the time but most of the time. Sometimes we’ll binge watch a show together but once that’s over he’d prefer to go back to doing his own thing. And when im conversing with him i just seem to be bothering him, like he’s not even listening; he’ll just nod his head. I just want someone that cant wait to come home to me, spend time with me, converse with me, etc. but I don’t get that from him. Am I being unrealistic considering his working hours?