Hi all,

So I was dating a guy for about a month that took me on nice dates and was supportive to me. Last week, he expressed that he wanted to be intimate, but I expressed to him that I was not ready. After that, I noticed the communication started to change and the trend of him.

I went to my sister for advice and she stated how a man is not going to cater to a woman for too long without expecting sex in return bc they are prideful and will then start to feel used. I informed my sister that I did want to be intimate with him, but only after some time have gone by and he proved to me that he was solid.

I am now feeling more then confused bc it’s like am I worthy of being loved and catered to without having sex with a man…? Will a man generally be interested in me for me…?

I do still like him and I do want to have sex with him, but only when I’m comfortable. I just feel like I have a lot to loose and sex is more then sex to me and now since he has kind of withdrew from me… I am wanting him more and feel like I’m ready to give him sex.. but I’d be so hurt if I gave him my body and then he started to ignore me and that I can’t be sure of… so do I take the risk?