So my man went to his friend today.

He stays away all evening.

So before he leaves he always wants to have sex or a blowjob or whatever.. 😒

I am not so happy in the relationship at the moment and I am often not in the mood to be sexual.

I try but I am not a circus animal. I don't want to do tricks on command.

When I told him I wasn't happy in our relationship and what needed to change (one of the things that was a huge thing was that we needed to be equals because I am not, he is never considering me equal. I feel like that hasn't changed.. he's just doing a lot more chores - on his terms - and then he says I can't complain because he does all that for me. Yet he doesn't respect me more) his first reach was "who put those ideas in your head? You must be" talking to someone "" which meant as much as" I think you are cheating and you're just going to leave me for this other guy" 🙄 and he demanded my phone. I told him no. I am not cheating but I've got nothing to prove (because we are not equals I know for a fact that he will criticize every word in conversations with my friends, every person I have befriended, every person I have sent a happy birthday to,... so no, I'm not going to let him get into my phone and mess with my head trying to put into my head that I'm being inappropriate when it's not)

so anyways when he's going somewhere he wants a quicky or a blowjob.. and I think it's to ensure him that I'm not going to cheat on him. But I often don't want to and he'll throw actual fits when I'm not doing it. I need actual reasons why I don't want to do things..

Today he wanted me to lay with him and cuddle and kiss... it made me feel kinde gross..

@M

No he's not forcing me or threatening me, but when I refuse to do what he asks he'll be an absolute ass to me, almost like throwing a tantrum and treating me badly and insinuating that I'm cheating because I don't want to do a certain something. It's like.. I can't just say "no" and him be accepting of it.

@Chick

right, but I do care about him, but it's getting less and less because of his behavior..

but we do have a child together and all our life together so it's kind of a big deal to leave him.. like.. I want it to work.. I just don't want to feel pressured into having sexual relations etc..