I need some help

So I’m kinda confused about myself at the moment, I came out as pan 3 years ago and I’ve had a lot of people give me shit for it so I started saying I was bi instead but then I got shit for that since I’ve only ever been with guys but that’s not what I’m confused about cos I know I like girl and guys I like anyone tbh all that matters to me is their personality. I’m more confused about my pronouns. I’m female by birth and I do see myself as female but sometimes I feel more comfortable when I dress masculine and act masculine but I enjoy both “female” and “male” things…idk if I should go by she/they or what 😥 I’m just really confused and need some advice