I’ve been with my husband for close to 7 years. We typically have amazing sex. We’ve been “trying” to get pregnant for at least 5 of those years and haven’t had any luck. Which is fine since I’ve lost interest in having a baby at this point. The problem is, my husband does ZERO foreplay and it sucks. He’s all about just diving right in. Sometimes he’ll get the lube and sometimes he will just use his saliva. My husband is against giving oral, he hates it. I’ve given him oral on several occasions but it was just to help me mostly. My husband also has no clue what to do with my clit even if it hit him in the face. Some reason he thinks playing with my labia makes me feel good and I’m only squirming because it’s uncomfortable. I don’t like him fingering me either because his fingernails are dirty. They are always packed with grease/grime so I push his hands away when I tries. He showers & washes his hands but it doesn’t get them clean enough.

My husband wants me to be the one to initiate sex instead of it always being him but the thought of sex just turns me off anymore. I love him beyond all measure and when we do have sex, it’s great but the getting into it just feels like a chore since I’m as dry as the Sahara desert. All the stopping to lube up and go again… it’s just exhausting. 😩 I’d love to be the one to initiate but I can’t get myself in the mood for it. Maybe I have a medical condition or something that just prevents me from being wet at all? Idk. Is there a supplement that can help with vaginal dryness? 🥲