My husband and I both have been going through hell mentally recently for various reasons. I needed his support. (TRIGGER WARNING: MC & SA) I had 2 MCs back to back and I needed his support. But when he’s depressed he gets reserved and he admitted to me, after dismissing my feelings countless times and sometimes blatantly ignoring them, that he just can’t support me right now because of how he feels. He told me recently something about our sex life that hurt. He said he gets anxious when I get triggered during sex (I was SA’d multiple times so even after a few years I SOMETIMES get anxious) and it discourages him from wanting to be intimate. So yeah, the way he phrased it, which I won’t repeat, made me decide that after everything I don’t want to have sex either. I feel like I’ve almost completely detached from him. He wants to watch movies or do normal couple things and I’ll do them but when he smiles at me like he does when he’s feeling a lot of affection, I cringe. Not because I don’t love him but because his inability to even acknowledge and validate my feelings after everything is SO hurtful that any action he makes to try to act normal feels fake. I just can’t take it anymore. I don’t want to be around him. I want to stay somewhere else for awhile but I have no one I can stay with. I’ve found support other places, like in God, friends, and family but does anyone else know how HARD and painful it is to be invalidated by your partner for months?! I’m so angry and I don’t even care anymore to express that to him. All I can manage now in the way of communication is little snide comments. I used to be good at telling him how I feel but now I don’t feel emotionally safe so I will not try. I tried last night and that was it. It was over text so he has no excuse like “I didn’t hear you”, he just ignored me and said something random. I’m so hurt. I want a divorce but I’m not ready. I’m going to stay until I’ve healed enough and gotten on my feet. I don’t have a job right now so I need to get one soon and save up. I just needed to rant. I’m in a really bad place and I don’t have anyone to talk to about this because they love my husband and wouldn’t get it.