My partner and I have been together since more than 10 years. We started living together almost 3 years back. I seem to have noticed since a while now that my partner does things better when he is alone, particularly when I am not around. For eg if he would play poker when I am around he would end up loosing money within a matter of minutes but when he is alone, he is able to play better. He just seems to do everything better alone. He enjoys with me but seems to have more fun when he is going out alone.

We love each other alot and have a pretty stable relationship but since I have moved in with him, I have come to realise (especially after an incident today) that he might just do better without me in his life.

He has also mentioned many times if I would have been with him in certain situations, he wouldn’t be able to enjoy or participate as compared to being alone/with friends.

Do you think I am thinking too much.? I don’t want to hinder his growth in life when I feel he strives better without me. Sometimes my presence even seems like a hindrance .