Now before I start this I know in a lot of relationships it's not okay to go through each other's phones. I know this, but in my relationship there's no secrets and we agreed ever since the beginning that if we ever felt like the other one was doing something they shouldn't then we had every right to find out. Now my spouse has a track history with me of breaking my boundaries in multiple different ways. Well last night I was scrolling through Facebook and a post came on about parents needed to check their child's watch History if they're on tiktok I didn't know there was a watch History and neither did he. So I was like oh hey I'm going to look on my phone and see if it's a real thing so I looked on my phone and it was you can see all the previous comments you've left on every post and all the videos that you've even scrolled by which is actually really cool in case you lose a video. Well I was going through it at 3:00 a.m. because I couldn't sleep and he had been acting really off he wouldn't let me go near his phone. And we had already gotten an argument the night before because he put a lot of p*** in my p*** folder so the pictures of me that he takes without my consent with my consent All the above he put a whole bunch of p*** in there and then told me that it automatically saves in there when it sent through Messenger which it doesn't because he made the folder on his own and it has to be put there but that's another story so I wake up at 3:00 and I'm like you know what if he's hiding that for me maybe he's hiding something else I'm going to look I didn't even make it to December 29th and there are girls basically fully naked in their f****** underwear it's like not even bikinis and stuff in their underwear twerking around bouncing around now before you think I'm crazy and it's just blah blah blah girls in their underwear I'm not allowed to see topless men because he doesn't like it because he is so self-conscious he doesn't want me to look at men that look better than him I agreed to that he gets mad if a topless guy comes on on the TV and I look. So my boundary for him was you're not allowed to look at women like that if I'm not allowed to look at men like that as well it's only fair. so we get into a big old altercation at 3:00 a.m. because of what I found and he tells me oh 20 videos of the same woman the same woman popped up on his timeline one right after another 20 f****** videos like no. So he then takes the phone from me bust me in my f****** nose whenever he grabbed it and then refused to let me touch his phone refused so I get my stuff and I go outside and I sit in my vehicle then he comes outside yelling and screaming how I'm crazy and it's nothing it was just random stuff that popped up on his timeline and all this other stuff and I was like so let me go through it and let me see what else I can find he goes all you're going to find is worse so you watch them on purpose then is what you're saying oh no they just pop up on my timeline so I'm like all right whatever I get inside he's like my phones at 15%, it's going to die anyway now we have to talk about this it was literally just him saying that he thought I watch these topless guys all the time and he didn't feel like he was worthy enough for me anymore and boohoo boo hoo boo hoo so I told him that's fine I'll just go through it in the morning cuz you're not going to get up when I do with the kids and he goes okay that's fine so then I wake up every time I woke up last night with the baby magically he got up with me and our son is 8 months old he has never done that. So I couldn't touch his phone oh and he hid it from me last night might I add so finally I get a second alone away from him and I find his phone I put it on charge start going through the watch History he comes in he starts calling me crazy laughing at me and all this other stuff and I'm like it's not funny and I didn't even make it out of December I made it to December 19th and I stopped because it hurt my feelings so bad I know that probably sounds stupid but it did it really did and don't get me wrong I know men are going to look at women just like women are going to look at men but there's a difference between looking and gawking and we all know that if he would have got online and he would see all those topless men he would have left me but it's okay for him because he's got a penis and that's normal it's not it shouldn't be normal so he stands over my shoulder the whole time I'm going through this and I gave up and I literally left I'm sitting in a Kroger parking lot right now because I don't know how to fill I'm tired of letting everything he does go I really am I just don't know what to do he won't leave I've called him I've texted him and told him he needed to get the f*** out and leave it's not his house it's my parents we live with my parents and every time magically are 4-year-old wants to talk to me on the phone so it's not him that's calling our four-year-old wants to put a pizza in the oven and show me and then here I am sitting here and I have seven missed calls from him and they're not my toddler