My husband and I have such a low libido and have had one since I had my daughter (Almost 2)

I want to spice up our sex life and try and get everything going again. For Valentine's day I want to get him a remote control vibrator to use on me.

Looking for reccomendations? I'd prefer one not used mainly for the clit as that's too overstimulating. I'd prefer something quiet, discreet, and insertable? I'd also love to hear stories about when to use them etc.

Thank you!