D&C second thoughts….

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Candice • 1 son born May 2020 #pandemicbaby Missed miscarriage and D&C 1-2023

I am scheduled for a D&C tomorrow morning for a missed miscarriage. I am currently 9.5 weeks but measuring at 7 weeks when the pregnancy was no longer viable. 3 consecutive ultrasounds with no heartbeat 😞

My doctor gave me the option to wait it out naturally or undergo a D&C. My HCG levels were not dropping but were not rising to the point of a viable pregnancy so he said it could take a few weeks for my body to process and pass naturally. He didn’t mention taking medication and I’m not sure why.

I chose the D&C because I just want it over with and to move on and for it to be the the safest, quickest, and painless as possible. But now I am second guessing the choice thinking I should go the natural route? But also think that may be traumatizing to miscarry at home.

I’m sure these thoughts are normal and maybe I just need some encouragement.

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The d&c was the best option I could’ve chosen. It was painless and the trauma was much lower than if I had miscarried at home.

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ariana smols • Jan 11, 2023
You are welcome hugs

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Candice • Jan 11, 2023
That is reassuring thank you.

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I had one for a missed miscarriage and it was the best choice for me. I felt physically fine when I woke up and mentally it was needed. I could not live with having to wait and not knowing when or if it was gonna happen on its own or how long even with the pills. I needed it dealt with asap. It helped me mentally and physically I didn't even cramp. We went on a long walk thr night I had it sone and we went on a long hike the next day to clear our heads and get away and I felt fine. Do what you think is best for you knowing it is hard no matter the choice. But for me I am happy I got the d&c.

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Candice • Jan 12, 2023
That’s how I feel. I couldn’t mentally handle the waiting. And with my age time is not on my side to wait even longer if we want to try again

La

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I’ve had a miscarriage at home as well as a d&c and I would go the d&c route because at home was beyond traumatizing. Although I was further along with the one at home so the experiences may have been different the second time but I still think I would go d&c if I was able to have a choice

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Candice • Jan 12, 2023
I’m so sorry. Thank you for sharing

Mo

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I had a miscarriage and was giving medication and it was absolutely traumatizing I bled badly for over a month and pass so many huge blood clots. It hurt badly too. I lost so much blood I was very sick and shaking even my magnesium level I’m my body dropped due to it and was giving iv magnesium when I was to the er for blood loss. And I was 6-7 weeks along then. I don’t know about a d&c but I know doing it naturally at home can drag on way longer than they say. And I’m so sorry for your loss!

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Monica • Jan 11, 2023
It’s okay, I got my rainbow out of this 6 months later. I truly hope the best for you and that you will heal from this and get your rainbow babe too!

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Candice • Jan 11, 2023
Oh my…I’m so sorry. This is what I fear. Thank you for sharing your experience

Ja

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I’m so sorry for your loss! I had the surgery in January but had to have it twice as they didn’t remove everything and I was still testing positive 3 weeks after the first surgery. Xx

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I miscarried at home and it was a very traumatic experience for me. It was my first pregnancy and I had no idea what to expect. The experience was painful, scary, and I bled for 20+ days after everything had passed. God forbid if that happens again I will be inquiring about other options.

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I would just wait it out to see if there’s any great out come

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queen • Jan 12, 2023
So sorry 😢

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Candice • Jan 11, 2023
Unfortunately the outcome will not be favorable. It would just be waiting for my body to pass the miscarriage naturally when my levels start to drop.