am i wrong for being mad??

Question

my fiancé who ive been with for 3 years and have a child with sent me a random video on snapchat today if a truck from a tv show and i guess forgot to turn the sound off on the video or accidentally sent it to me because he said “ i wish i could send this to *ex gf* we used to watch this shit” they were together for 4 years.  she cheated and then left him cause she was unhappy and then we met shortly after. like very shortly. i didn’t know he had recently had a break up or i wouldn’t have been interested, but we met through mutual friends so i didn’t know him or her before some random day meeting. but anyways we’ve been together since, live together, have a baby, and are getting married next year. now i’m second guessing. my blood is fucking boiling, i’m hurt, confused, angry, upset, all of the emotions. so what do i do or say in this situation? i lost my fucking mind on him and he’s been profusely apologizing and saying he didn’t mean it and he doesn’t know what he said it and blah blah blah blah blah. what would y’all do?

Answer

I would have asked him right then and there, "you still think of her? do you miss her often? was it hard for you to end your relationship with her?"....to see where his head is at. I wouldn't yell, scream or fight. I'd simply talk to him. It is normal to have a difficult time getting over an ex especially if you never truly wanted to end the relationship; and ended the relationship because of hurtful actions. I would feel a bit sad that after 3 years of being with me, he can still manage to think of his ex. But I would just talk to him to see where his mind is at and after he expresses what he feels and thinks, I'd let him know how after 3 years together, how it makes me feel and how postponing the marriage may be best; give him time and give myself time to see how things play out and see if my feelings change at all. I would have simply communicated with him. And you still can. But do so without yelling. No one likes a yeller. I don't even have respect for people who yell at me; learn to speak calmly and like an adult and I will hear you. I do not hear a yeller. And for your partner to want to figure out what did he do/say that was wrong, tells me you need to have a conversation with him. Communication is key.

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I wouldn't be buying his bull shit. He literally was thinking of her while sending you a video....I don't think that was an accident. It was very careless on his part if not intentional. It's obvious you all haven't been together long enough to be getting married because he's obviously still thinking about the last girls and on top of that sending you a video with evidence. I think he's a dumbass and you definitely need to hold off on a wedding.

am i wrong for being mad??

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