Anyone else still not sleeping?

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My fifth baby but my first time absolutely refuse to sleep in bassinet. My husband and I trade off holding him all night long, he won’t even safely cosleep on his back. My back is killing me, we only sleep in 1–2 hour spurts and I have four other kids to care for. 
We’ve been doing this 8 weeks now and I’m getting severe ppd and I can’t function. 
We’ve already tried two reflux meds that don’t work and even considering clipping his tongue to see if that’ll help as dr thinks he has reflux from a tongue tie. But he’s nursing fine and gaining a ton. He’s just so hard. 
Any advice ? I literally hold him 24/7 and I’m so tired

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I’m so sorry! I had to deal with this with my second baby. It was awful. To this day he won’t fall asleep without me rocking him or laying next to him and he’s 2 in a half years old. We have tried everything to break it but he refuses. I don’t have much advice. I co slept with him when he was little just to be able to sleep and not go crazy. I know co sleeping isn’t the safest but I am a light sleeper and don’t move much at all when I sleep. With my new baby he sleeps in his bassinet pretty okay as long as I’m not around, soon as he smells me he wants to lay with me. Have you tried putting your T-shirt in his bassinet or something that smells like you close to him? Does he care to be swaddled?

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Update: we’ve been on reflux meds for a week and they’re helping slightly with the colic crying but still won’t sleep on his back. We met with an ENT and he’s getting his posterior tongue and lip tie lasered on Friday. Praying this is life changing for us all. :)

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I follow Taking Cara Babies newborn class. Life changing and NOT formal sleep training. Just introduces helpful sleep habits/tips/wake windows. If you follow it, it will work. Good luck!

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Don’t have much advice as we’re in a similar situation here, but from one sleep deprived mom to another, I’m sorry you’re going through this. Mine went from being an okay sleeper to barely sleeping even when held. We finally started reflux meds today to see if that helps. We’ve considered a postpartum doula if the meds don’t work. Maybe something you can look into. Message me if you ever need to vent, I know it’s rough.

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I've had to use a wedge pillow to sleep at night and hold her when mine refuses to cosleep safely

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I had that issue with my second. My husband and I were miserable until around 3 months when she started sleeping longer so we had more windows to try and get her to sleep in her crib. It was a lot of work but we eventually managed it.

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My baby was like this the first three weeks. We had to sleep with her in our arms. We used the moon boppy & propped pillows around her in case she wanted to roll off. I’m a very light sleeper so any movement she made I would wake up. So it was safe-ish. There was no other way. Now at a month old she still can’t be put down for longer than 5 minutes. But I can at least get her on her crib now for at least 4 hours at night. Good luck mama. Hang in there.

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My first was like this for 2.5 months

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In a very similar situation with my second now. She’s 8 weeks and absolutely will not nap anywhere apart from in my arms around the clock- 
And in the night it’s hit and miss- she’s done a few stretches of 3 or 4 but not very often. Then I breastfeed her and she’ll only sleep for one hour and then refuses to sleep in her bed for the rest of the night. Absolutely exhausting so I really empathize with you. I’m pretty desperate for things to improve cos I don’t know how I’m making it through the day at this point…. Got nothing in the tank, running on empty :(

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