am i in the wrong ?

Question

hey yall, 
long story short, i was supposed to go shopping w/ my friend who’s preggo and my other friend (who’s not new) met up w/ me at the store w/ me cuz she saw my
location so when i was done i left w/ her cuz we live rlly close .
one, when i got to my friend, she wasn’t even ready. anyways her BD drove us to the store and stayed in the car while we went in. now they’re
not together but he been sleeping over her crib and bringing her places but not my business i guess. 
anyways, after i leave she send me a long ass paragraph saying she was upset w/ me
which i’ll insert below. now i know i fucked up cuz i’ll always admit when i’m wrong. but i’m
starting to feel like she’s being entitled to
me cuz i went food shopping w/ her before when it was just me and her. 
she basically tried to make look like a bad guy but technically she wasn’t alone cuz after i left
w/ my friend i figured she’d call her BD in to help her … 
and mind you i was coming from a town an hour away from my hair appt which took a couple hours and didn’t eat since the morning (that’s on me) .. idk .. do y’all think i was being insensitive ? 
this is still bothering me cuz my friend i left w/
said if anything, her BD shoulda been the one coming inside and helping her , not me and that i shouldn’t feel bad . and i don’t like when ppl feel
like they’re entitled to me cuz i ended a friendship of that and that’s what this kinda felt
like .. and mind you, she always calls me
to go w/ her when she has other friends and her BD and i don’t even have a car ..
what do y’all think ?

Accepted Answer

Yeah you’re in the wrong….how is she feeling entitled to you if you agreed to go with her and then up and leave without saying anything and assuming she’d call someone else to help her or whatever. That’s not being entitled. That was rude of you and you know it so I’m not sure why you’re trying to justify your actions and paint yourself as the victim.

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You were in the wrong. It’s rude to make plans with someone and then ditch them for someone/something else partway through. That would hurt anyone’s feelings. She wasn’t acting entitled. She invited you to do an activity, you accepted her invite, then you found something better to do and abandoned your friend. That was shitty. Good on her for saying so

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Why are you posting your text message on here? How would she feel she found out you just let millions of women see this text message she probably wouldn't appreciate it. Are you in high school trying to make yourself look good because you're in the wrong   don't make plans with somebody  change them I would have cussed you out the minute you stepped out of that store in text message. You literally changed your plans last minute That's the most irritating thing in the world.

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She asked YOU to go with her. Not him. These were your plans with her. Just because he drove doesnt mean it wasnt plans between the 2 of you. He didnt even come inside, he just drove so the 2 of you could have your outing together. Even if he could help her or she didnt need help at all, you dont just ditch her like that. Even if you said goodbye to her,  is she supposed to beg you to stay? I would be like fine then go, but it's still rude and dismissive.

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you were wrong to leave but holy crap the way she talks to you is aggressive and dramatic. She could have just said nicely how she felt and It would have been receptive

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Listen I’m bout to be 38 weeks pregnant. If I asked my friend to come shopping with me and they agreed then LEFT me in the middle of my shopping AND I had no help we wouldn’t be friends anymore. Youre wrong as hell for that. My friends know I take awhile to shop, pregnant or not. You Shouldn’t of agreed to go if you were tryna rush to get back home. If you value your friendship I suggest you apologize, some flowers and candy wouldn’t hurt either tbh.

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Eh yeah you are in the wrong. Instead of figuring or assuming things, communication. Don't just up and leave her bealvause you assumed something.

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My problem with this whole thing that everyone else seems to be overlooking is that the other friend who just invited themself.. has all these opinions about the situation. The uninvited friend said the baby daddy should’ve helped her. Well that’s what you were supposed to be doing, that’s what you all planned. You more or less ditched her. She called you on it. You feel some type of way about it, that’s fine but she’s not wrong. You’re wrong. You guys had plans already made, your other friend weaseled her way in and instead of telling her to leave like you should have, you ditched your pregnant friend for her.

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I'm surprised that you're asking this question. How do you not see that you're in the wrong?

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You’re definitely wrong for your assumptions. You could’ve just communicated with her if you had other plans. You cannot just make plans and then leave assuming things your way. You need to apologize and mend things with her.

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