Mom putting it all on me!

My mom is a lot of the times all talk with no walk. Last time my kids and I saw my parents was on New Year’s Day and they live 20 minutes away. She makes the bare minimum to stay in touch by messaging me how we are. A few days ago, I asked if they would like to come over because it’s been forever. Instead of saying, yes great! She writes, she’s left it up to me to do the invite.

I have a toddler and twin babies, dealing with constant sickness through the Xmas holidays and lately butting heads with my husband about his lack of parenting. Dealing with my own personal struggle being a SAHM, with gloomy weather. I really have no energy to do special invitations for my parents. If they want to come and spend time with us, wonderful.

We’ve told them they can come over whenever they have time and like. My mom’s response was, “well, you’ve said before, not today or you guys are sick, so I’m leaving it up to you”

Seriously, my mom can’t handle being told no once in awhile, gets easily offended, so she gives up all together. when I’ve said not today, I made sure to offer an alternate time. What the actual hell is the big deal??

My husband’s side of the family, make the effort to drop by, sometimes babysit while I can do errands or sleep a little. My mom is mostly concerned of her fragile ego, “talks” how she’d love to babysit at the same breath she complains about how she’s got no time for herself. So I don’t even bother asking for anything.

I’m slowly isolating myself because I literally have no one to talk to, I’m considering going to therapy. It’s becoming so much emotionally for me right now and I have no one to talk to. Since my mom has her own issues and tends to use what I tell her in confidence against me, not going there. I’m beginning to think my mom is a toxic, narcissistic one.