“For what it’s worth”

My husband and I’s 9th wedding anniversary is today (valentines day). For the past week we have literally been at each other’s throats. One reason being is the fact that I feel he completely invalidates my feelings. It I initially started when he was talking to his father (who flagged him down in his vehicle) after numerous encounters with him in the past where he (father in law) said horrible awful things about me to my husband. While my husband put him in his place and told him to never bother us again, for some reason my husband keeps entertaining him (speaking with him after he said he wouldn’t) and it hurts. I’ve expressed it and asked him why he continues and the best answer he can give me is “I don’t know” and he’ll talk to who he wants” Which isn’t an ok answer for me. He Tells me I’m overreacting. 🙄 That I’m being unreasonable. Ugh.

In any event, we haven’t really spoken in about a week since it happened. A few short answers here and there. Today he messages me with “for what it’s worth, happy anniversary/valentines day”.

I read it and didn’t respond because it surely doesn’t seem sincere and honestly, I’m really not over the hurt and the fact that he has me feeling like I’m wrong or crazy for feeling the way I do…. is causing some resentment.

How do I or should I respond. At this very moment I don’t even care what day it is. It’s just another. But I’m feeling spiteful, hurt, angry and I feel like not matter how i explain to him (even with tears) he won’t understand or doesn’t care too?

Idk. It seems petty and ridiculous to some… but I’m trying to find the right words tactfully yet disrespectfully. 🤦🏻‍♀️ and just to clarify, every single thing I’ve put here, I’ve said to him without and resolution.