6 Years being a Victim of Narcissist ??

It’s a bit long story so make your tea and sit…

I’ve married to a British guy but his family also from my country so it’s all good cuz he’s actually relatives.

Problem started after I came to uk , first you get slapped from culture shock, language/ understanding of environment and everything is shock . It was the very first year when I had encountered with his sister ( I’ll call her R*) and it was bit weird as well as she got married just a month before I arrived and she separated after 4 months of it. Long story cut to she came back living with her parents where we’re living too and it was chaos. She kept blaming me of not been cleaning up house, my stuff everywhere so even on my days off I used to spend it on house cleaning ( it’s a big house with 6 bedrooms,3bathroom,2living rooms and conservatory) so you know it takes a lot of hard work that being on job and coming home trying not to upset her as she was going through divorce.

I didn’t made any friends, I didn’t travel / party /enjoy anything but focus on cleaning, making sure she doesn’t have anything to argue (went thru this with 2 pregnancy as well ALONE) and her parents kept leaving country and asked us to let her do whatever she wants, we were not like a family or anything but she insulted me and my husband and every single occasion. She put loads of pressure on both of us and I always always trying to do something and made my husband so impatient that if our kids do something wrong /bad he loses it. He has been so patient person in his family (he’s on number 5 youngest one) that all other just do quack quack . While he’s not that kind which is why his father entrusted him on loads of things.

Well I didn’t knew that I’m being victim of narcissistic (sister in law R*) for 6 years till I got depression and anxiety and my therapist has given me antidepressants and told me why I becoming antisocial. I have made no friends , I lost my confidence I lost pretty much myself which I was , very strong happy and easygoing. She stoop me so much and even degrade my kids in family union ( every weekend) and called me a *baby maker* while she’s going through her second (love marriage again 2nd time too) divorce.

I’ve stopped talking to her about 2 months ago. She’s still living in same house, I leave the room she enters to and I completely not saying a word to her neither letting my kids closer to her. Her dad is trying to fix her relationship with her husband but he’s on edge too from her behaviour which she twisted and presented to her dad that he’s the narcissist one he’s got this whole she plans it in her room and I could tell how she plans to put others and manipulate them and her dad believes everything.

Problem is that this house is being afford by my husband ( bills groceries everything) and he supports his parents they don’t have any income.which is fine by us and we are all good but we can’t leave house as we can’t afford any other place with two kids and I don’t have a job for few weeks