Okay I texted my sister about my husband and her here’s what happened

I texted this: You haven’t heard from me because there has been a lot going on at home.

I just want to tell you one thing, by saying this, I think you will know what I’m talking about. I do not want you in contact with my husband anymore. Stay away from him. I know about the extremely inappropriate text exchanges with you and him from last April/May. The only reason I did not speak to you about it is because I was protecting dad. And speaking of dad you need to act normal with me when you see me or he will know something is wrong. And we don’t want anymore issues with family for daddy to be depressed about. This would be the worst for him.

My husband confessed it all and I know you both have been emotionally cheating—You on josh and Corey on me. And you are my sister.

If josh knew what I know and saw what I saw… This is betrayal for josh but this is ultimate betrayal for me—My husband & sister, wow.

I am the victim of emotional infidelity in my marriage because of my husband and sister. I have a happy beautiful baby boy, and one on the way and now I have to deal with this. During this time of being pregnant which is such a blessing it should also be such a loving time between husband and wife… which now with this, very hard. I am so blessed I was able to fully enjoy pregnancy with my son. But my baby inside me now, has to feel their mama cry. God has given me strength and I wipe my tears in the morning, pick him up, dance, and put a smile on my face for my baby boy though.

No need to text me back right now. I just wanted you to know, that I know all about the emotional cheating I have been through because of you, my sister, and my husband, that started last year.

And one more thing. Try to think of this situation if roles were reversed. Put yourself in my shoes if it were josh and I texting this way and neither him nor I was stopping it. Even though it should never have happened both times in the first place! Very sad. Crossed lines left and right. Heartbreaking.

So the first time last year… those texts she was flirty back for sure and egging it on etc. she would good morning love you. Etc. this time in January and this month (the second time cheating) she did have short responses like you can tell she realized what they did in past was wrong and inappropriate but she never stopped it at least this time and she denied that she ever did anything last year. When last year she was clearly flirty bantering with him and part of the cheating.

Here is her response to my text to her:

Tali, i should have put a stop too it! I didn’t know what to do! I’m not playing victim. And I would let corey vent. But not once did I ever hit on your husband never once did I find him attractive. Honestly it made me uncomfortable but I didn’t know how to tell him. I am a coward for not saying it sooner. I WOULD NEVER EVER. Cheat. I never confided in him. I know you were going through a lot your first pregnancy. And a lot of times I would ignore the stuff he would send. I should have been honest with him and told him to stop but I just didn’t know how. Like I said I’m a coward and don’t like confrontation. But I never went looking for him texting him NEVER! As far as the inappropriate texts. I’m not sure what you are talking about. I have never made a pass at him or anything. I am hurt that you are hurting. And am devestated that you are hurt and feel betrayed. I love you with all my heart and your children. I care about your family. And would never deliberately want to hurt you.

Idk what she is talking about saying I know you were going through a lot your first pregnancy. Like what?? My first pregnancy was a dream. It was literally perfect. And their first time around texts last year happened after my first baby was born. This time it’s happened this year as I’m 4 months pregnant…. She has manipulated and gaslit me many times in the past. I know they are both at fault last year and now she is being classic her and making me feel like I am going crazy and questioning myself. She literally before I became pregnant last year said 5 times within one month have you got your period yet?? What are you pregnant?!!! Nastily she didn’t want me to be before her and when I said I have to talk to her after those times she was like “what???” I told her I’m so over her being rude and mad and asking me over and over. She said she doesn’t recall doing that ever but sorry IF she did but “I don’t think I did but sorry to make you feel like I did” LIKE MANIPULATING AND gaslighting! I told her no you didn’t make me feel like you did YOU DID THIS NUMEROUS TIMES!

So to her response I said this:

Then

I know what I saw. The texts from last year when my baby was about 2 months old…wow. So wrong on your end as well as my husband. If you don’t remember I’m sure you can scroll up your text thread.

Yes, this time around I know you were short with him, but you never stopped it by saying that last year you both were in the wrong and both crossed lines very flirty with each other. So now this time, yes I acknowledge you were short with him in your responses, but last year, you engaged in flirty and were part in emotional cheating.

You should have stopped it this time and last year what you guys texted back and forth to each other—should have never happened. So inappropriate on both parts.

I can’t talk much more about this as I am physically, mentally, & emotionally exhausted.

Then she texted back and still not saying anything about last year and her texts to him:

I am sorry. I know that sounds so weak but I truly am. I am trying to scroll up but don’t have the text messages you are referring to. I do remember he had asked me multiple times if I liked him like more than brother in law and I assured him I had never had and never would have feelings for him and saw him like a brother. I guess on my part I was naive and stupid. I truly never meant to hurt you. I don’t want to cause you anymore stress. But you are right I should have been honest. He would vent to me but I was just trying help. I was trying to protect by not saying anything but that’s my problem by not saying anything/ stopping it just makes things worse. I need to speak up when things are wrong instead of letting things slide

I love you and I understand if you never want to speak to me again. I just want to let you know I have told josh and he is aware.

Then I asked:

When did he ask you if you like him as more than a brother in law ??? And you said you can’t find the texts from last year???

She then said which is how convenient that the last year texts she some reason doesn’t have them… lol she deleted them so then she could show josh just this time around where she is short with him.

Her response:

Yeah not there.

Back in may I believe. I honestly think his mind started playing games on him and started over thinking things. I reassured him not once did I ever feel anything other than brother sister for him. I only have ever seen him as a brother and was just trying to be supportive.

I hope one day you can forgive me. I never would intentionally try to hurt you. I love you and am genuinely sorry!