This is not a normal reaction, right?

My sister asked if her brother in law could borrow a pair of my husband's shoes for his first ever (and very short notice) job interview. His feet seem to be on the smaller size whereas my husband has bigger feet, but there was one pair of shoes that he's has in the cupboard for YEARS, dusty AF, that were his size. Due to the super short notice I didn't ask my husband, I really didn't think it would be a big deal to loan someone a pair of shoes for an interview.

I told my husband this evening though and he lost his SHIT. Literally, started screaming and shouting at me, punching the doors and the windows, throwing all the other pairs of shoes I should have offered him instead, screaming how he doesn't want those shoes back now, threw his supper away, etc. Screaming how much I suck and how much he hates me and how I've ruined his own day. Because he was "saving them" - he's had them for like FOUR YEARS!!! I thought he forgot they existed! Even if he was saving them, it was literally a 20 minute interview in an office setting. And he's screaming and punching and slamming over this!!! Saying I have all day to message him about unimportant things (that he often doesn't reply to because he's so busy) but I can't message him about this (when they asked me when they were practically at my door). Screaming how much of an idiot I am and how much I suck and once again I don't care about him and how much he hates me and calling me an asshole and how he's never going to forgive me, and and and. The shoes were not the most expensive pair of shoes that he's ever bought, I don't get it.

Am I just completely under-estimating how wrong I was, or is this reaction completely and utterly insane? He's not angry I lent the shoes, he's angry I lent that pair specifically. Saying that I keep making him a beta?? If he had to lend something of mine I wouldn't care.

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Thank you ladies. I do so much for this man / around the house to lessen his stress and everytime I do something he deems as disrespectful, he acts like this. I cook, I clean, iron his work clothes, I fetch his medicines, I run as many errands for him as possible, I manage the household finances, I prep him lunch for work, I shut up when he is hours late from work and only tells me after like two hours that he's just having a beer or something.... But then none of it matters when he gets in a mood like this. I even let his mom, who HATES me, come stay when she needed to.

Yes, he's acted like this twice before and he was drunk both times, but this time he was 100% sober. The first was after my mom's birthday, when my sister's boyfriend helped me with something at home and my husband was upset that I didn't ask him (he was already drunk as a skunk - but apparently I beta-ed him and disrespected him) and then at Christmas, my sister's boyfriend took over the BBQ and apparently because I didn't say anything to him about it, I also beta-ed my husband and disrespected him.