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Take them out! Clean them carefully with saline before and after removing them and watch them carefully as they heal. Part of the reason babies shouldn’t get ear piercings is because as their ears grow, the piercing won’t be centered on the earlobe. I’m so sorry that your MIL betrayed your trust like this!
Mother-in-law pierced my daughter's ears without or consent and now I don't know if I should keep the earrings or take them out 🤷🏼♀️
My daughter is 6 months old and I don't know how just yet but my mother-in-law managed to get her ears pierced. It was done in a salon.
We're dealing with the obvious breach of trust and all that because she pierced my daughter's ears after knowing we were waiting to do it when she's older as a rite of passage. She's obviously not going to have my daughter visiting unsupervised for a long time.
Anyway, we are torn between taking the earrings out and letting the holes grow in or just leaving the earrings in. My daughter has been grabbing her ears and I'm worried she's going to rip the earrings out, but it's also like ... What's done is done and she went through the pain already 🤷🏼♀️ if she keeps grabbing her ears we're going to take them out. But like does it make sense to take out the earrings otherwise?
Feb 24: we decided to take them out. My daughter kept grabbing her ears and was screaming because she was pulling on the earrings. I was terrified she was going to pull them out and either rip her ear or accidentally swallow an earring.
We talked to the salon and they said my mother-in-law gave them a written note giving parental consent for the piercing. There's not much we can do with them but they were apologetic.
I cleaned everything really well with saline and will continue to keep the area clean as it heals. I talked with an actual piercing artist on the phone and he said that the area should heal without any scars since she had the piercings for less than two days. Essentially it's a cut at this point. He gave us some tips for optimizing healing.
Once I took the earrings out my daughter stopped grabbing her ears and screaming. Now she just grabs her ears like she used to do pre-piercing. I'm going to be washing her little hands often with Aveeno baby body wash in addition to following her piercing care routine.
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I guess for me the biggest issue is your mil chose to lie and deceive the salon that she had permission to do this, it is very wrong... Your baby didn't need to go through that unnecessary pain imo and yes she'll heal just fine with your quick, proper care and cleaning of it.. but the moral is your mil betrayed your trust and also potentially put your baby in danger of possibly getting an infection all without you knowing she was going to do this.. I am sorry this happened and glad you're taking measures to make sure your baby is safe and happy... As far as your mil is concerned wow, big violation of trust and I'd be very upset.
Been there girl. My mil did this and it was a whole big thing with her guiltily ass fight ass reactions towards me while I was actually going in it level headed. I’m the type to want my kids to want it. So I took them out. She can ask for them when she gets older if she’d like. Not anyone else making that decision. I barely wear earrings anyway and I feel like now I have holes in my ears for nothing.
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Guilty * and fighting ass*
I would just keep them in. The hole may leave a scar if you close it up. And while we are also waiting for my girls, I honestly dont think most women/teens are upset that their ears were pierced as babies. My girls are 4 and 6 and Ive offered but neither of them wants it done, not because they dont want earrings, but because they dont want the needle. I was waiting more for a practical purpose of it being easier to clean and maintain when theyre older and actually want them, because my husband and I both have sensitive skin as do some of my kids, not because Im afraid theyll dislike them and be upset with me that I had it done. So from a practical standpoint, since it already happened, the pain of the piercing is over and done with, spare them from having to do it later on... I would leave them in. But MIL wouldnt be taking her alone for a long while. As in years. What she did was inexcusable if she knew full well you didnt want them done.
Mo
Also she may be grabbing her ears because they feel different like what the heck vs it actually hurting her
My aunt did this to me and my mom was livid! That’s something a mother should experience with her daughter when her daughter chooses she’s ready. My child would never ever again be left with my MIL. We have a strict “no one drives our kids anywhere” rule so that’s my way to avoid these things happening.
Girll I would have been furious if my mil did that. I would not let mil ever see your daughter ever again either she learns to respect you as a mother and learns her place. She’s the grandma she’s not a important somebody in your daughters life… your her mom you make all your decisions for your child that is your child that wasn’t your mil place to do that. How dare she think she can make that decision for you. Stay away and don’t talk to her until she learns how to respect boundaries and respects you as a mother.
She's grabbing her ears because it's a sensory thing. I highly doubt she's in pain. She will stop touching them soon. Just keep an eye on her to make sure she doesn't actually take them out. Keep the area clean and sanitized so they can heal properly. Taking them out and letting the hole close is NOT a good idea. There will be a scar, and if she wants them pierced in the future there is a much higher risk of damaging the tissue further and she could get keloids. Just keep them in. It's done.
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