Ok I’m at a loss here. Looking for opinions.

A little back-story… We have a 4yo boy & a 5month old baby boy. I feel like I am taking care of 3 kids (as my spouse is a lot more work than the 2 kids) plus working fulltime AND doing freelance work on the side. My husband is CONSTANTLY having mental health issues. He is crying at least 3x a week. I feel like I don’t even have time to think about shedding a single tear with everything I’m juggling. The baby appears to be beginning the teething phase as he’s struggling with bed-time and cluster feeding for 2 hours straight. Well, for the past 3 nights, I’ve needed my husband’s help getting babe to bed while I tend to our first. Each night, the baby has had a difficult time going to bed. I keep hearing my husband crying over the baby’s cries!! This prompts me to quickly dash in and take over as I’m constantly worried he doesn’t have the head-space to care for our baby properly.

Is this a sign of depression/extreme anxiety if he’s constantly crying?! It’s not even our first kiddo and we’re well beyond the newborn stage where it would make sense a little as newborns hardly sleep if that were the reason. HOWEVER, baby is sleeping through the night. I don’t get it!!

I have suggested to him for months he should try to use free therapy sessions provided by his employer but he won’t. Keeps telling me “I don’t have time” I don’t know what else to do or what could be going on. 😞