I know that people say once a cheater always a cheater.

I recently found out that my bf of 9 months was cheating on me in february. He got a girls number and went to a bar with her. He claims that it didn’t go further than that but idk. I only found out because i went through his deleted messages and seen their conversation. The last thing they talked about was him cutting her off and telling her that he couldn’t see himself sleeping with anyone other than (me) . they only talked for four days but it still hurts like hell. I broke up with him because I feel disgusted. He apologized and told me everything. He said that he is going to start going to therapy and working on himself and that he hopes that we can eventually get back together when he shows me he’s changed. He said he will wait until i’m ready to talk again whether that be months or even longer.

I know he loves me and that it was a bad choice on his end to risk everything we built. I want to believe that he can change but i don’t know. I am going to also try and go to therapy once I get insurance.

I am just wondering if any of you have been through anything similar and have any advice?