Last year I was in a situation and I wasn’t ready for a relationship at first and I wasn’t sure if I could see a future like marriage with the guy but we had an amazing time together and a strong connection. He wanted to be with me but I had to a lot to learn and I was on a personal journey so I expressed I wasn’t ready to be together but we were drawn to each other and at first it was a no but I had to consider. It was more casual at first but love grew. I realized that’s at a young age considering marriage from the jump is a lot of pressure and I should focus on longevity. I took that into consideration and finally decided that I wanted to give it a chance and realize that I don’t have to have it all together to be with someone which I’d the concept I was battling with because I wanted to be the best me first. (I graduated I was considering my career etc.) In the meantime he lied to me and was pursuing someone else at our place of work in front of everyone and embarrassed me and it felt like I got cheated on but we weren’t in a relationship we were in a “situationship”. I had never been hurt like that before and it was a difficult time in my like in general with that on top. After that I don’t want to be with him, we aren’t in contact yet I still feel so hurt and I don’t know how to shake that. I shifted my outlook and I’m in a loving relationship with a guy I adore, he treats me like a queen, I can see a future and he knows I’ve been hurt and he said we can grow together! I don’t understand why when the past gets brought up I still feel so hurt. Maybe I’m over the person and not the situation? Idk how to not feel that way, what do i do?