We have been together for 4 years, and were introduced by his sister that I’m very close friends with. In the beginning, our sex life was exciting and sensitive, but I had a hard time orgasming under the pressure. The sex feels great, even now, but I get up to the edge and can never cross over if you get what I mean. The hard part is, because during the act I feel good and I moan and writhe and am just generally feeling really good, but when it builds up I haven’t been able to when he is trying to get me to cum. I can count on one hand the amount of times I’ve had an orgasm with him, but don’t worry I am well equipped with vibrating toys and other extras. But those are mostly used in private, when I’m able to focus. The part that I feel guilty about is that I know if I had told him about this at the start, this would all be different. He’s very receptive, interesting, and relationship wise all I could ever want besides this thing I cant break to him 5 years in. The reason I didn’t tell him right away was because I was raised in a very religious community (Mormon). I haven’t been to that church since I was 9, but went to a high school and was surrounded by people who thought that women’s pleasure was something that was not important or was just not talked about ever. My fiancé was not raised that way, and I am not religious at all or affiliate with that church since I was 13, but I do think that upbringing has an effect on why I have such a hard time telling him. When we have sex now, I think it’s the bare minimum and I almost never cum. It’s not like I’ve never told him what I like or what gets me going, but it seems to be on the back burner. I need advice on how to break this to him, please. I don’t want to go into a orgasmless marriage when every other aspect of us matches perfectly.