sorry if this is long but i’m very curious. everyone has kinks and i’ve had mine of course but recently i have this new one or more of a fantasy about being degraded? sort of like calling me names, slapping, etc. but also, having sex with someone i know i shouldn’t be having sex with.. or someone outside of my relationship if i were to have one. i hate these new fantasies because i never had them before and i’m not the type of person to cheat but these didn’t come on until after i left a very toxic relationship and abusive that had a lot of cheating in it (if that even matters). can someone explain why i could possibly like those things? or if you’ve ever experienced this?