Help opinion

I broke up with my bf 3 weeks ago. Im not sure if i made the right decision as this has only been my second relationship im 26 and so is he. We have been together for 3 years a lot of ups and downs. And the downs are pretty down. Alot of yelling and him cursing me. But the good is so good he’s thoughtful sweet understands me. I know no one is perfect and i have to accept people’s imperfections because i am also not perfect i yell during arguments and give silent treatments. But me and bf got into a very big argument a couple months ago. I tried to forgive it but for some reason it bothered me.. i had looked at his phone while everyone in his family was on their phones and i asked who someone was on his phone, he said he doesn’t know said he’ll message then to prove it i said no its fine he proceeded to type a message my gf wants to know if we talk i took the phone from him so he doesn’t send it and i stayed quiet then asks his brother gf if shed do what im doing he called me a fkg btch infront of his family me to leave infront of everyone. His step mom tried talking to me to calm me down because i was crying for how he disrespected me. I broke up with him. Couple days go by we makeup but he tells me after the makeup he told his whole family all of the arguments i have ever started with him since the beginning of our relationship. In his defense he thought we were done. But he exploited me i never not once discussed our problems to anyone in my family. At that point his parents telling him im crazy and to never get back with me and im going to

Make his life miserable so basically everyone shit talked about me. This kinda made me feel like he did not respect me I respected him never wanted anyone to look at him bad especially family. I apologized to the family and everything was moved on but for some reason months later the situation still bothers me idk if i can trust ever again. We had also had this problem where every argument he would tell his step parents as well. Everyone knew when we argued he made it well known he learned from it but we didn’t get into anything that big for him to go telling them anywho i broke up with him officially because i dont know if i can marry someone like that it was getting close to the point where he wanted to

Propose and it was scaring me.. he ruined my trust idk is this something i should not have broken over? Is this normal in relationships? Im sorry im still new i dont know whats forgivable and whats not please give me your opinions