My husband is butt hurt over this to the point he wants me to cut off my brother. Just because my brother doesn't consider him a friend.

I've told my husband that my brother doesn't really do "friends". My brother has said that he doesn't do friends. He has a hard time trusting people. He was assaulted by his best friend of 17 years when he was 22 so he doesn't need nor want friends. My brother just lives with his boyfriend and their dog and he's fine with that life. My husband tries to include my brother in stuff and when my brother is over the house my husband includes him when hanging out with his friends.

One of my husband's friends is getting married and they're going on a guys trip and he invited my brother and my brother said no thank you. My husband kind of wouldn't take the no and kept trying to push my brother into going and I told my husband to stop because it's insensitive to my brothers trauma. He doesn't want to be alone in a different state with guys and that's fine. My husband got butt hurt because he brought this up to my brother through text and say they're friends and this is what friends do only for my brother to say that they aren't friends. My husband asked why does he hang out with them and my brother replied "Because you're my bil and they're my bil friends. That's it. I don't do or want friends and I definitely don't want to go out of state with people." My husband is butt hurt simply because my brother won't be his friend and told me do I understand how shitty it makes his friends feel that my brother is accusing them of being rapist. He wasn't doing that and I told my husband that and his friends didn't care nearly as much as my husband did. I told my husband my brother doesn't want to be his friend and to let it go but he said anyone who doesn't accept him shouldn't be in my life and I should cut him off. How does that make sense? Just because my brother isn't his friend doesn't mean he doesn't accept him as my husband. Then my husband called my brother fake because he hung out with them and stuff like friends do. I said they clearly just have different definitions of friends but he wants me to stop talking to my brother over this and said that my brother doesn't care about me because all he wants is his bf and dog but I think my husband is just being butt hurt.

@Bee the issue is I've said this to my husband before. My brother has stated numerous times that he doesn't do friends. It's not like this was something new to my husband. And even if my brother considered him a friend I still don't think pressuring him to go on a trip he doesn't want to go on is okay. He wasn't saying "I don't want to go out of state with you." He said people because my brother wouldn't go out of state with a group of other guys besides his boyfriend. My husband new all this and my brother said this plenty of times.

@Bee like I said my husband already knew this though. My brother said constantly he doesn't do friends. My brother is also a blunt person and if he doesn't consider my husband a friend it's better to say that than to lie. I get he's upset but like I said these are boundaries my brother made known from the beginning and continued to be made known.

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