Is this normal and can I fix it?

Hi, I’m currently 17 and 2 years ago I underwent a lot of stress with social services and it caused me to start having ingrown hairs. I used to get them before but hardly ever. But since all the drama stress has caused me to get ingrown hairs on my panty line and lower stomach. I’ve never had them there before. And I seem to get more on my armpits but not as much as down there. They come in huge pussy lumps but they can feel like cysts. I pop them or if I see the hair I remove it with a specialised kit for removing spots and ingrown hairs so the tweezers are great and can get all the hair out. But sometimes they get ready to pop themselves so I pop them and no hair comes out. So I don’t know if it could be acne. Some just refill themselves and it’s quite sore and it’s humiliating. I don’t really like my boyfriend going down on me when it’s bad but no matter what I do I can’t get rid of them. I use aloe Vera gel as a face cream because that’s the only thing that helps my sensitive skin so I tried it on these ingrown hair type cycle and it helped calm it down but it’s starting to flare up again because I’ve been wearing pads and they seem to provoke it. I haven’t changed my body wash or anything and I’m sure the cause is stress because I read that can make you get ingrown hairs and I can’t think of anything else that would be making it go like this. I don’t really wear lace or tight pants often but that’s never been an issue and it doesn’t make any difference. I don’t want to go to a doctor so can anyone tell me if there’s a way to make this go away or at least calm it down? Thanks for reading and I’m open to any suggestions.

Also, not shaving doesn’t help. Even if I don’t shave and just trip it’s the same.

Here’s a close up image of what it’s like at the moment, just so you can get a better idea as they might not necessarily be ingrown hairs.