My husband and I are brand new foster parents. We already had a mix up because we were talking we were getting an infant and toddler but instead we got a 12 year old boy. He has some intense trauma and we've had trauma informed training but his is very severe. He watched his mum and step dad hurt and kill his younger sister. They were both abused. It's his 3rd night and I wonder if he has autism. The caseworker said he didn't but he seems to have a younger mind and I'm not sure if he's always been like this or after his trauma. He keeps coming into our room with a pillow wanting to sleep in the bed with us because he thinks his mom and step dad are coming to hurt him. We keep trying to explain that she's gonna be far away from him for a very long time. They're both behind bars forever but no matter how much we tell him and stay with him for a few hours to help him sleep, he keeps having the same fear at night and coming into our room. How else can we help him feel safe?