AITA For Leaving My Wife Alone at The Park

I (26m) am married to my wife (28f). I have a lot of issues with my mental health. I suffer from PTSD and dissociation. For people who may not know what dissociation is, it's kind of like I leave my own body. It's a result a severe trauma I endured when I was 15. I was hurt really badly by an older man when I was 15 years old. It caused me a lot of trauma and mental illness and sadly while he was punished in the court of law, I don't feel the justice system did me much justice. Anyway, my wife is very aware of my trauma and what happened when I was 15 years old. At first she was sympathetic but started saying I use my trauma as an excuse to be depressed and she feels most people fetishize their assault. So I stopped talking about it. Even in therapy. I just don't want to annoy anyone

My wife went to hang out with friends for the weekend and asked me to pick her up. They had went to a park to see a mini music festival. However, where she told me to pickup was across the park from where she was and told me to text her and she would walk to me. I decided to just meet her at where she actually was and I see her and her friends at the same table with this man who hurt me all those years ago. My wife looked like she saw a deer when she saw me. She ran up to me and I asked why she was with him. She said I need to chill out and it's nothing like that. She told me some of her friends are friends with him so he is around sometimes and she didn't want to tell me because she didn't want me to freak out. I asked how could she hang out with someone who hurt me. She said it wasn't like she was hanging out with him. Her friends are friends with him and she's there for her friends. I said where they aware of what he a grown man did to me when I was 15. She said her friends believe people should have second chances no matter what they do. And she's not gonna argue with that. I just couldn't believe this. I would never do this to her. I even told her that. I would never hang out with someone who caused her so much pain and she lost it on me and said "I'm tired of hearing about this! It happened almost 11 years ago. I'm not gonna stop hanging out with my friends just because there is a guy there who did something horrible 10 years ago! What happened to you was horrible and nobody should ever have to go through that but my life doesn't revolve around your trauma!"

I just tried to blink away years, got in my car, and left. My wife didn't expect me to do that. I honestly wasn't even thinking when I did that. I was on autopilot. My wife ended up walking home because her friends couldn't give her a ride and screamed at me that she had to walk home at night as a women. I don't remember all she was saying because I started to dissociate. My wife tells me I'm a jerk and I'm overreacting and need to grow up. I honestly don't know anymore. Am I the asshole