Tired of this

Quick back story : been together 3 years & have a 2 year old. We were homeless last year for a few months me & my daughter went into a homeless shelter. Now after I found a place for us to live he moved in with us I was trying to make things work but his behavior from the past had a wall built up and I was afraid so I pushed past those emotions and still allowed him to come move in. We started arguing every single day , cops getting called every other day , he was putting his hands on me . From January until April he did not have a job , he finally did get a job and was bringing home $300-400 every two weeks. I’m burnt out working 2 jobs and got back into school so I can make more money. He lost that job literally not even a month later. So all the bills still on me until a week ago he got another job. He wants me to quit my jobs to allow him to be the man of the house but he hasn’t shown me any capabilities of being the man of the house. A few months ago I “cheated”& he found out when he went through my phone ( I was texting a guy for a week & stopped) I constantly told him I wasn’t happy , we tried couples therapy he would use anything I said in therapy against me so we stopped going, EVERYTIME I came to him about a problem in our relationship that I didn’t like he turned it around on me. He’s innocent and I’m the one that’s always making him act the way he acts. He’s taking no accountability for the way he treats me, I have to beg him to be softer to me I’m extremely sensitive now and he loses his cool too much around me and it intensifies my anxiety , he used to get mad at me for not wanting to have sex with him ( I’m still dealing with ptsd from being molested a lot in my childhood and I barely want to be touched or looked at especially the way he treats me) his family thinks he’s this sweet and innocent person and they think I’m just this hot headed person for no reason. He makes me feel like I’m losing my mind and that I’m always wrong in every argument. Our daughter has been really sick and in a lot of pain and he yelled at her because she was crying. I be so afraid of leaving her with him because of how he gets mad over small things ( I don’t have any close family members that can come watch her for me while I work overnight) i haven’t been to work since she got sick because I know she needed the extra loving and of course I was the only one taking care of her , he used her sickness to get out of going to work so he could sleep all day & when he’s up he wants to fight all night. He’s constantly going through my phone because he’s insecure since I “cheated” on him . And every conversation I have with my friends he gets upset , if I’m expressing my anxiety/depression to my friend he gets mad and asks why I don’t tell him ( he throws everything up in my face and says I use everything as an excuse when I’m not in the mood for sex or when I don’t want to deal with him) . He gets mad because I don’t give him money when he asks for it ( he wants to buy weed) . I’m not giving him my hard earned money so he can smoke it up and sit on his ass. I am literally sick and don’t know which way to turn I’m trying to find a day shift job so I can be at home with her at night but there aren’t too many in the area and I can’t afford a baby sitter most charge $20 an hour and I simply can’t afford that at this moment trying to make ends meet and I don’t get any food stamps . I have let this go on too long and im hurting because of it , my daughter is hurting because of it.