Is your partner more concerned with money?

Hi everyone,

My question- is/was your partner more concerned with finances after or before the babies born or were they concerned for you and the baby & helping you with the baby?

Backstory, my bf and I have been together for two years known each other for 12 years (dated in hs) and he has two children from a previous relationship (same mother for both children) and this is my first child with him. We weren’t prepared to have a baby and it definitely came at a surprise for the both of us. However, I’m grateful for this blessing!

My bf and I have been talking about the preparation for the baby and when it comes time for the delivery he’s going to be there (obviously) but once I leave the hospital he wants to return to work a few days later (which he works 8 or more hours a day, sometimes overnight). Because we are going to need money. But I had mentioned to him about both of us putting a set amount of money aside each check so we have money for the time we are both off work when the baby arrives.

I also mentioned to him that I can go back home and get the help from my parents and sister but my parents live in a different state. He told me he doesn’t want to miss appointments, & he wants to be there to bring me to the hospital. He told me to ask my parents to come to our state and help out. (Both my parents are retired, but my dads a pastor and can’t just leave the church for a month or more to come help me) I just don’t want to do this alone when our son gets here! I want us to do this together!!!

We are also remodeling our travel trailer (camper) so we can become full-time nomads (travel the country) by the time the babies born we want to have it finished. He would also find a job that was work from home like mine. So he can be there more & When it came time for us to leave we would both be Work from home.

I just want to know if I’m over exaggerating or am I justified to feel the way I feel? I really want him to be here for me but apart of me feels like I’ll be doing this alone and with my parents help a little!